• Angel Lee


Generalizations bother me.

This is all my opinion in the hopes that it might reach out to someone who can relate or to empower someone.

In aspects of gender, race, and mental states I call BS on every generalization ever made.

First, I'll start with gender. Do you ever look on Buzzfeed Snapchat and see a title involving the word "every"? Maybe it's entitled "22 Things That Every Girl Will Cringe At" and it's 22 photos of shattered foundations and smashed lipstick. Maybe it's entitled "18 Photos that All Guys Can Relate To" and it's 18 photos of dudes playing sports or taking shirtless mirror selfies. Not even a single word for the LGBTQIA+ community from Buzzfeed either in these types of articles. Moving on, these generalizations deteriorate people sometimes, causing them to believe that they should be like something to fit their gender norm. These generalizations make people insecure and self conscious that they might not look as much like their gender should look- that they might not look feminine or masculine enough. Sometimes, these generalizations strip people of their passions to pursue something that's more typical for their gender. What's saddest is that these generalizations are either blindly or purposely enforced by millions around us- that I face people every day who indirectly tell me I don't look so "girly". Sure, I have no problem telling them I couldn't care less to be myself, but it hurts to know there's others out there that simply get bullied and beat down by these words who might not feel so confident in their identity. If generalizations on gender ceased by the least, maybe people of any gender could feel less judged, less insecure, and more confident in themselves and the world around them.

Next, race has been something I've seen so many struggle with since elementary school. Stereotypes that generalize any p.o.c (people of color) hurt us. Growing up as an Asian-American, I was personally never bullied for being not white, but for the food I ate and for the way I smelled. I wasn't bullied for not being whitewashed, but rather for the culture that was the only culture my parents knew, being that they both moved to America from Taiwan. I distinctly remember opening my lunch everyday and hearing at least three comments saying, "Ew! What is that?". My little moments of small pride were when I embraced the food I ate because one, it tasted so much better than PB&J and two, I carried a piece of my culture with me every day at school. Now in high school, I've met so many more Asian-Americans who've told me of how they were treated in elementary/middle school, which was much worse and brutal than I was treated. It was mostly more brutal because they weren't able to stand up for themselves and only just discovered two years ago that they can embrace their native country and its culture. Nevertheless, people still continue to beat us people of color down with racial slurs and stereotypes, and the kids that might be as clueless as my fellow Asian-American friends 10 years ago have to endure the hate.

I'm going to speak on behalf of my fellow Asians and only my fellow Asians because I don't know too much about other races or what their culture is like, only because I've never been immersed in them.

Not all Asians become doctors. Not all Asians are in Honors/AP classes and should not get shamed for it by their peers. Not all Asians are quiet. Not all Asians "look the same". Not all Asians have small eyes. Not all Asians only hang out with other Asians. Not all Asians like K-pop. Not all Asians are submissive. NO Asian should be put under these generalizations, and NO person should be put under the generalizations of their race.

Next, mental issues and instability aren't all triggered by the same thing. Just because someone has depression, it doesn't mean that their family is broken or that they just broke up with their significant other. Just because someone has anxiety, it doesn't mean that it was sparked from too much stress at school. Just because someone's suicidal, it doesn't mean that they're "going through a phase". Mental disorders aren't anyone's fault. My anxiety has been with me for the past year, and it's not because I'm angsty, or because my family's broken, or because I have stress from so many other subjects. My anxiety is set off by any situation that involves the germs that could cause stomach flu. My family is incredibly supportive of everything I go through and always stand by my side. School only made my anxiety worse; didn't trigger it to be a long-term thing. I'm rather just tired and hoping for a break from my never-stopping brain that spins, which I'm sure I've wished for since 7th grade, indicating that it's probably not a phase. Don't assume the reason for someone's mental disorders; it's offensive when you offend the person and the people around them that are probably trying to help them by blaming them for the problems. Don't call their actions insane. Don't generalize all humans affected by mental issues as people going through a phase or super "emo", angsty people.